so defined by aunty google as:
1.brush and clean the coat of (a horse, dog, or other animal).“the horses were groomed and taken to shows”
2.prepare or train (someone) for a particular purpose or activity.“star pupils who are groomed for higher things”
And what does this have to do with Me?
lets re-google and quote the learned Urban Dictionary:
The perp must have a significant advantage of … etc.
But where does “having a motive or intention to do something in your own favour, without the ‘recipient’ knowing your motive or intention” fit into that equation?
You see, people ‘groom’ others everyday.
Yes they do.
I want the last piece of cake. I could get up in the middle of the night and eat it. My intention is to have it by all means necessary you see. But instead … I do the following:
“Have you put on a bit of weight?
“Those pants look a little tight … but it suits you … sort of …
“Are you still watching your sugar intake?
“You seem a little OTT today? Have you had extra sugar?
And then come the end of the day, when I ask:
“Do you want the last piece of cake sweetheart?
You Say …. Ahhhh No thanks, think I need to watch my weight and sugar intake … help yourself :)
So, has this all been a manipulative process – with method and intent – to get what I want?
And it worked a treat!
And does this occur everyday in nearly every situation we are put into?
Yup, it certainly fucking does. Too lesser or greater variations.
So as a heads up.
I Do Not Like Being Groomed.
Not for anything. Ever.
And as for intent …
I smell your intention long before you’ve entered the room.
Previous sexual assault, and living with its effects, gives Me a dam fine snout when it comes to that sort of bullshit.
And that right there is an A.1 positive fucking outcome that I am embracing the living shit out of right now!