i think I’m still after a feeling .. Safety. in my body, skin. i’m not sure what that ‘looks’ like until I see it. the thing that makes me feel the most at ease, is .. simplicity .. in all senses of the word. . . is the world an unsafe place for a little girl. for a half grown girl. for a half ass grown woman. for a womxn. for a brown woamn. Is it. Is it really. At all. . . All she needed was protection. To feel safe. Ok. Protected. . The child didn’t feel protected. The child wasn’t protected. The child had to protect itself. It’s still frozen in one place waiting for shit to make sense. Waiting for grown ups to do something, grown up. Like. Manage themsleves. And protect those that are vulnerable. However. They’re vulnerable. And as ungrown up as the child standing next to them, watching them implode and explode. . . In the meantime .. we tryna grow our own selves up.
i have little faith in humanity. & No faith in the systems that have set themselves up to control my existence. i have no faith in a god that doesn’t hear and choses not to see. i have no faith in those that utilise that logic. . there is nothing in this present fuckery that would suggest that anyone has me & mine, best interests in mind. rather, they are more concerned about a collective that doesn’t exist and a lie rather than history & honesty.
but such is my history, no?
it’s taken a while to grieve, acknowledge & adjust.
& we both know it’s not done.
in amongst it all, i wait to hear you.
but you & I know that truth, right.
you know I weighed you up.
the options were similar to what is being presented atm. & the pressure and timeframe feels just as tight, jarring & triggering af.
but I keep waiting to hear you. waiting for you to tell me what to do.
like i’ve ever listened to anyone anyways living or dead .. but you know this, right.
i can feel the same angst i felt all those years ago. that still tails me when i feel pressure & coercion .. waiting for the analyst part of me to kill all my emotions & take the fucking wheel.
but you know that right.
do you remember me touching you .. well, holding the place where you grew .. just as your sibling had been a short while before.
you felt that ever present knot, that resides all up in that place, right.
you heard me scream from that place, right.
did you hate me then, or feel pity. knowing that my choice was going to be self preservation.
i knew, you knew.
how cruel is that ay.
i don’t know if I’ll ever make complete peace with my choices. or if I’ll ever not hate those that got me to that place. or if I’ll ever not feel that loathing you see in my eyes. feel in my soul.
I know you know I loved you. I know you know I could feel you leave.
Or did that happen to the both of us ay.
I also know you know I know you know, it should never have been that way .. but it was . It is.
I hope to hear you some day. Feel you, maybe.
Or maybe you know I know it hurts too much, so you don’t whisper at me.
i do feel the pitter patters of your teeny tiny feets on my chest though, trying to make it crack.
It hurts like fuck. But you know that, right.
& I am trying .. breathing. . . I’ve put you amongst your tipuna & your siblings .. neices & nephews.
I’ll leave you there for as long as you need.
well, as long as I need. . I love you. I always have. I always will. . . #babylossawareness #amethyst
there’s something quite soul crushing about, not just being told your a shit ass mother, true or not .. but having your mama – hood, forcefully removed. . & then to have your child / ren used as tools of coercion, is an entirely different kinda fuckshit.
Type of fuckshit that’ll opt for abortion. Type of fuckshit that’ll opt for sterilization over contraception. Type of fuckshit that will pre book a space in hell for the weilder of coercion. Type of fuckshit that would see the village burned to the motherfucking ground.
Guess what. . I realised the other night, that I actually enjoy bedtime. . Right. I know most enjoy it .. but I have never ever not ever. . Never. . Why. . Aside from the nightmares that had plagued me forever.. sleep is the ultimate vulnerability. . Yup. Let that soak. . So becoming aware of the fact that I actually enjoy, not just being a little ok, but enjoy, look forward too .. bed and sleep. . . Is fuck ing A Maze ing . That’s it. .
It’s grief Deep ass grief Fuck What wasn’t What I know could have been But wasn’t It’s not bitterness It’s just loss Loss and grief And as I come to an end As we all do I can feel, not regret Just grief It’s been a long long long Ass road Long ass
My tears are thick My body, irritated. Muscles, they ache. My chest is heaviness. Down to under my ribs, it heaves. Throbs. Screams. But silently. My stomach knots. Tight, like my fists. My thighs. My calves. All recoiled. Solid.
fuck face was dead. id halved him to put in a box to put outside. noone cared. Then he woke up. But different. . Cut to my Nan and grandad’s old place. . Aunty N .. came gave me a letter and a hug. @ Front porch of Nan’s old place. . A Big hug. . Another person, unnamed, came to some where .. where I was at, motel or place we were all watching kapa haka. Moko was little. But acting grown. . Person came in and said ok I’m here to discuss .. something .. sounded like it was going to be friendly .. and then they said .. . Something like, youre mental health or you’re mental state is shit because you won’t agree with me. . As they started in though, fuck face came in, there were others, my daughter’s and grand kids .. I got angry. I let this person talk for ages. Rave on. . Everyone was looking at me walking around, pacing and this person was getting high off their own speech. But they sounded absurd. . Then I let rip. Finally. . Said ‘tell me why’, in a big big voice, ‘why I went off the rails as u say .. got rebellious .. naughty’ .. I was yelling .. ‘What age did that happen, do you remember. Do you fucken remember when that fuck first hurt me. No. Have a guess. Nice and loud. Was it, 7, no, mokos age, no, lower .. lower .. 3 – 4 .. And what did you do What did you do.’ . Noone moved. They just watched. They weren’t uncomfortable. I was getting louder though. Not crying. Bit visbly angry. ‘What did you do when I came and told you. What did you say Did you stop going there. Did you tell him off. Did they fuck face? No. On and on. And you have the the fucken cheek to be here telling me I’m mentally incompetent.
Fuck you.” . & That was the end of my dream. When I woke up my throat felt different.
Me. Healing my body. Healing my story. Narrating my own healing. . Whatever comes & whoever it comes for, after all that talking, & all the work ; is gravy. . . Cos First contact & awareness with my uterus, was forceful invasion.
She has carried that ever since. Guarding. Protecting. Cleansing. Growing.
She won’t ever not.
Even as she prepares to close her biological functions She can prepare to let go of the maemae she has held until she could enact her memories.